Mortgages and Tinder

Tracy Head • March 10, 2023
What do the two have to do with each other? This week I learned a new term – Tinder Swindler...


This comes from a Netflix movie about a fellow in Europe who duped numerous women out of money by borrowing funds with promises to repay them. This is a con that has been around forever in different forms but the increased prominence of online dating has really extended the hunting grounds for people that are looking for their next mark. In the olden days (like when I was young) this scam looked more like a wealthy older man being taken advantage of by a much younger woman. This was the stereotype in any case. This profile has now changed and the swindlers come in many different forms and of all ages. Although what follows is going to feel like I’m hammering one gender over the other, believe me the con comes from both genders. My hunch is that when men have fallen prey to these scams pride prevents them from disclosing.


Over the last few weeks years I have worked with three different women who have been conned out of thousands of dollars by men they met through online dating portals. In all three cases these are strong, independent women who work hard and have always taken care of business. All three own their own homes and have great jobs and clean credit. The game starts easily enough. They each met someone who seemed like a great partner. He was charming, caring, and seemed to have his act together. One case started with a request to borrow cash as the partner was in a bit of a jam. Then, in all three cases, for one reason or another the new partner couldn’t seem to hold down a job. In one case the partner was starting a new business and just needed some cash to get things off the ground. In one case the new partner used her computer to apply for additional credit and intercepted the mail before she knew she had new cards coming. It goes without saying that in all three cases the women are left holding the bag with no hope of recovering any of the money they are owed.


For two of these women we were able to refinance their homes to consolidate all of their debts, but for

the third she found herself in the horribly difficult position of having to sell her home. After three years

of hard work she was able to buy a home again but this was definitely a huge hit to her retirement plans.

Before you are tempted to judge these women for allowing themselves to be victimized, understand

that none of the three are stupid women. They were trusting to a fault, and never thought for a minute

that their partner was anything other than the front that they saw. This is intended as a cautionary tale. If you are early on in a relationship and your new partner is looking to borrow money or asking for you to apply for credit on their behalf, open your eyes.


Trust your gut. Question why they are in the situation they are in. Get the details. Don’t be afraid of difficult conversations to get to the truth. Life happens to us all, and sometimes things are as they seem. However, if you are in a relatively new relationship and your partner is looking for money … think long and hard. It’s a slippery slope. One woman said to me “In for a penny, in for a pound. I kept hoping things would turn around and if I held out he would pay me back. In fact it just cost me more money.”

If you find yourself in this situation, I urge you to make a move and get help sooner rather than later. There are often options you are not aware of so you need to make changes as soon as possible so your credit and financial situation are not compromised.


On a different note, if you own a home you should have received mail from the provincial government asking you to complete a declaration regarding the Speculation Tax. Make sure you take care of it before the March 31 2023 deadline or you may receive a tax bill of up to two per cent of the value of your home.

Tracy Head

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Mortgage Options

By Tracy Head • November 1, 2025
In past columns I’ve covered when no means no and when no means maybe there’s another option. There are many aspects of my work that I love. One is that I learn something new each and every day. No two clients are the same and no two applications are the same. Some are easier than others to put together. Another thing I love is that we have so many options to consider when working on our files. I do find immense satisfaction when I tackle a complicated file and find a great solution for my clients. I am working with an amazing young couple as they build their portfolio of rental properties. They are relatively young but both work incredibly hard and really have their ducks in a row. The plot twist they have is that they both transitioned from salaried positions to being self-employed over the last year. Their credit scores are both in the high 800s (900 is a perfect score), they are both making substantial income, and they have saved over $100,000 for their down payment.  Seems like a slam dunk right? Because they don’t have two years of filed tax returns as self-employed business people our options are a bit limited. There is a program we use in this situation but their scenario does not fit within the guidelines. Their dream home just came on the market so they are wanting to buy and convert their current home to a rental property. This particular home came up in the neighborhood they really want to be in, and homes don’t come up very often. It is immaculate and has a legal suite. They had originally approached their bank and been told it was a hard no. I work with their realtor fairly often and she suggested they give me a call. Within 24 hours we had the approval in place for them. We ended up taking the application to an alternative lender for a two-year term. The interest rate is about .5 per cent higher than a chartered back and there is a 1 per cent fee charged. We weighed out the pros and cons of going this route versus holding off until their next tax returns are filed before purchasing another property. After chatting with their financial advisor and accountant they felt it was worth the slightly higher interest rate to be able to buy the home now. I will say I love straightforward simple applications but in reality those are few and far between. Most of the applications I work on these days seem to have some sort of plot twist like this one so I am very grateful there are so many options available to help clients who may fall a little outside of the standard lending guidelines.

Marital Breakdown

By Tracy Head • October 18, 2025
One topic I haven’t tackled for a long time is marital breakdowns. When you are working your way through what is arguably one of the most difficult times of your adult life it’s important to know that you have options. There is a program available for refinancing your home specifically for spousal buyouts. Under this program we can refinance your home back up to 95 per cent of the value of the home and use the new funds to pay out your ex-partner and pay out marital debts (provided this is written into your separation agreement). Qualifying this to say that we can refinance to 95 per cent if the value of your home is under $500,000. If the value of your home is over $500,000 we need to ensure you have 5 per cent of the first $500,000 and 10 per cent of any value over the $500,000 left as equity in your home. It’s a small distinction but in the Okanagan the second calculation is the one I see the most. With recent changes to the First Time Home Buyer’s program we can now extend the amortization out as far as 30 years if needed to make the numbers work. It is important to note that this program is an insured program meaning that a premium is added to your mortgage so its important that you work with someone who is familiar with this program. You will require a finalized separation agreement to refinance to pay out the other party.  If you have significant equity in your home and we can make the numbers work a traditional refinance is also an option. In this case we can only increase your mortgage to 80 per cent of the value of your home but there is no default insurance premium required so this is usually the preferable option. A question to ask yourself is whether it makes sense to refinance your current home or to sell and buy a new home. The list of pros and cons will be different for each person, but one of the most important things to consider is whether or not you can afford the higher mortgage payment on your own to stay put. Also key to consider is whether or not you need the same space or whether downsizing might be another option. Do you have children that you want to keep in the same area and same school? Is your current home in a convenient location for work, school, and social activities? Or are you needing a fresh start somewhere new? If you find yourself in this situation and are considering your options with respect to refinancing your home I encourage you to reach out to a professional that can help you take a good hard look at your situation. Doing a bit of legwork upfront may help relieve at least one part of the mental load as you work your way through a separation or divorce.