Mortgages and Tinder

Tracy Head • March 10, 2023
What do the two have to do with each other? This week I learned a new term – Tinder Swindler...


This comes from a Netflix movie about a fellow in Europe who duped numerous women out of money by borrowing funds with promises to repay them. This is a con that has been around forever in different forms but the increased prominence of online dating has really extended the hunting grounds for people that are looking for their next mark. In the olden days (like when I was young) this scam looked more like a wealthy older man being taken advantage of by a much younger woman. This was the stereotype in any case. This profile has now changed and the swindlers come in many different forms and of all ages. Although what follows is going to feel like I’m hammering one gender over the other, believe me the con comes from both genders. My hunch is that when men have fallen prey to these scams pride prevents them from disclosing.


Over the last few weeks years I have worked with three different women who have been conned out of thousands of dollars by men they met through online dating portals. In all three cases these are strong, independent women who work hard and have always taken care of business. All three own their own homes and have great jobs and clean credit. The game starts easily enough. They each met someone who seemed like a great partner. He was charming, caring, and seemed to have his act together. One case started with a request to borrow cash as the partner was in a bit of a jam. Then, in all three cases, for one reason or another the new partner couldn’t seem to hold down a job. In one case the partner was starting a new business and just needed some cash to get things off the ground. In one case the new partner used her computer to apply for additional credit and intercepted the mail before she knew she had new cards coming. It goes without saying that in all three cases the women are left holding the bag with no hope of recovering any of the money they are owed.


For two of these women we were able to refinance their homes to consolidate all of their debts, but for

the third she found herself in the horribly difficult position of having to sell her home. After three years

of hard work she was able to buy a home again but this was definitely a huge hit to her retirement plans.

Before you are tempted to judge these women for allowing themselves to be victimized, understand

that none of the three are stupid women. They were trusting to a fault, and never thought for a minute

that their partner was anything other than the front that they saw. This is intended as a cautionary tale. If you are early on in a relationship and your new partner is looking to borrow money or asking for you to apply for credit on their behalf, open your eyes.


Trust your gut. Question why they are in the situation they are in. Get the details. Don’t be afraid of difficult conversations to get to the truth. Life happens to us all, and sometimes things are as they seem. However, if you are in a relatively new relationship and your partner is looking for money … think long and hard. It’s a slippery slope. One woman said to me “In for a penny, in for a pound. I kept hoping things would turn around and if I held out he would pay me back. In fact it just cost me more money.”

If you find yourself in this situation, I urge you to make a move and get help sooner rather than later. There are often options you are not aware of so you need to make changes as soon as possible so your credit and financial situation are not compromised.


On a different note, if you own a home you should have received mail from the provincial government asking you to complete a declaration regarding the Speculation Tax. Make sure you take care of it before the March 31 2023 deadline or you may receive a tax bill of up to two per cent of the value of your home.

Tracy Head

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Conditions of Mortgage Financing

By Tracy Head • May 5, 2025
When I work with clients that say they are writing an offer on a private sale I always talk about the benefits of working with a realtor. Realtors do so much legwork that happens behind the scenes that clients aren’t even aware of. Most times it is challenging on my end when clients try to tackle the process of writing an offer on a private sale themselves. I joke and say I am going to charge them an extra fee because of the additional work it creates on our end. I don’t actually charge a fee to be clear but I am only half kidding. When you start down the road of buying a home there are many new and unfamiliar terms you may hear. Whether you are working with a realtor or not, arguably some of the most important things you need to learn about are the “subject to” conditions to include in your offer to purchase. When you write an offer to purchase a home, your realtor will offer guidance as to the conditions you include. Common conditions you will see are:  Subject to arranging suitable financing  Subject to a satisfactory home inspection  Subject to arranging home insurance  Subject to review of strata documents  Subject to the sale of your current home If you are purchasing a rural property or are in a unique situation you may also see:  Subject to a water potability test  Subject to an inspection of the septic system  Subject to the seller finding a suitable home to purchase These lists are not all-encompassing by any means. The purpose of adding conditions to your offer is to protect you in case there are any issues with the home you are looking to purchase. In previous columns I’ve written about the potential dangers of writing a subject-free offer. The high- level, quick position is that if you write a subject-free offer you’d better have cash on hand to buy the home. I have worked with several clients over the last few months that have written private offers. We do absolutely everything ahead of time to try to ensure they will be successful with their financing. These files stress clients more than you can imagine. They have to either find templates to fill out or pay a lawyer or notary to prepare the documents for them. Either way they need to quickly learn about the conditions I listed above and understand key dates involved in the buying process. The clients need to deal directly with the sellers on any issues that may arise. When you are working with a realtor they handle these issues on your behalf. A knowledgeable realtor also helps avoid issues by taking any of the personal contact and emotions out of any potential areas of conflict. Make sure you do your due diligence and have your ducks in a row as you move forward with an offer to purchase whether writing an offer with a realtor or on your own. Now that the sun has come out and the election is over I’ve seen my clients more actively shopping which is encouraging. As always, my advice is to work with a realtor that you are comfortable with and who knows your area well.

Not all lenders are created equal

By Tracy Head • April 21, 2025
Not all lenders are created equal Just as no two clients are the same, not all lenders are created equal. For the majority of clients getting the best interest rate is their primary concern. For me as a broker it is as important to find a lender that provides a smooth process from start to finish and excellent customer service once a mortgage has finalized. What do I mean by this? When new lenders pop into the mortgage market they often offer low interest rates or better compensation to encourage mortgage brokers to send files their way. Sometimes these new lenders are amazing, and sometimes not as much. Once in a while more established lenders will offer brilliant rates in order to increase the number of mortgages they have on the go. We see lenders float in and out of the competitive rate market based on how much money they have available to lend at any given time. While this can be great for clients, it can also be a nightmare. If a lender does offer rates much lower than other lenders they end up flooded with applications. They may or may not have the staff / staff with expertise to handle larger volumes and increased time pressures. If we are working on a refinance with flexible dates this isn’t necessarily a problem. If we are working on a purchase application with deadlines this can become stressful for all involved. On top of that lenders have different processes for handling the legal paperwork that goes to your lawyer’s office. Some lenders handle everything in-house and have very responsive teams to handle getting the documents to your lawyer and addressing any changes that need to be made. Other lenders hire third-party service providers to produce their documents and this adds an extra day or two to the process. As a broker I try to learn about my clients’ longer term plans and find the right fit lender-wise. I look at lenders’ policies for portability, pre-payment options, flexibility with respect to their guidelines, broker support, and equally as important client service experience after the mortgage finalizes. Does the lender have a portal? Will they allow me as a broker to help my clients or do they require clients to work with them directly for any changes? We sent applications to two newer lenders over the last month because they had fantastic rate specials available. Both files ended up being very stressful as we were down to the wire waiting for mortgage instructions to be sent to the clients’ respective lawyers. I prefer not to have to deal with last-minute stress on my files.  Rate is of course incredibly important to your long-term financial health. In my mind a smooth process before and after your purchase or refinance is also important. There are many considerations that go into choosing the right package for our clients. My recommendation one day may change the next depending on both your situation and what I am seeing behind the scenes with various lenders. I hope you had a beautiful Easter weekend!!