Mortgages and Tinder

Tracy Head • March 10, 2023
What do the two have to do with each other? This week I learned a new term – Tinder Swindler...


This comes from a Netflix movie about a fellow in Europe who duped numerous women out of money by borrowing funds with promises to repay them. This is a con that has been around forever in different forms but the increased prominence of online dating has really extended the hunting grounds for people that are looking for their next mark. In the olden days (like when I was young) this scam looked more like a wealthy older man being taken advantage of by a much younger woman. This was the stereotype in any case. This profile has now changed and the swindlers come in many different forms and of all ages. Although what follows is going to feel like I’m hammering one gender over the other, believe me the con comes from both genders. My hunch is that when men have fallen prey to these scams pride prevents them from disclosing.


Over the last few weeks years I have worked with three different women who have been conned out of thousands of dollars by men they met through online dating portals. In all three cases these are strong, independent women who work hard and have always taken care of business. All three own their own homes and have great jobs and clean credit. The game starts easily enough. They each met someone who seemed like a great partner. He was charming, caring, and seemed to have his act together. One case started with a request to borrow cash as the partner was in a bit of a jam. Then, in all three cases, for one reason or another the new partner couldn’t seem to hold down a job. In one case the partner was starting a new business and just needed some cash to get things off the ground. In one case the new partner used her computer to apply for additional credit and intercepted the mail before she knew she had new cards coming. It goes without saying that in all three cases the women are left holding the bag with no hope of recovering any of the money they are owed.


For two of these women we were able to refinance their homes to consolidate all of their debts, but for

the third she found herself in the horribly difficult position of having to sell her home. After three years

of hard work she was able to buy a home again but this was definitely a huge hit to her retirement plans.

Before you are tempted to judge these women for allowing themselves to be victimized, understand

that none of the three are stupid women. They were trusting to a fault, and never thought for a minute

that their partner was anything other than the front that they saw. This is intended as a cautionary tale. If you are early on in a relationship and your new partner is looking to borrow money or asking for you to apply for credit on their behalf, open your eyes.


Trust your gut. Question why they are in the situation they are in. Get the details. Don’t be afraid of difficult conversations to get to the truth. Life happens to us all, and sometimes things are as they seem. However, if you are in a relatively new relationship and your partner is looking for money … think long and hard. It’s a slippery slope. One woman said to me “In for a penny, in for a pound. I kept hoping things would turn around and if I held out he would pay me back. In fact it just cost me more money.”

If you find yourself in this situation, I urge you to make a move and get help sooner rather than later. There are often options you are not aware of so you need to make changes as soon as possible so your credit and financial situation are not compromised.


On a different note, if you own a home you should have received mail from the provincial government asking you to complete a declaration regarding the Speculation Tax. Make sure you take care of it before the March 31 2023 deadline or you may receive a tax bill of up to two per cent of the value of your home.

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By Tracy Head • October 28, 2026
If you are self-employed you know the drill. You work hard, take care of your customers, pay your bills and try to keep as much of your money as possible. When tax time rolls around, you sit down with your accountant and look for every legal way to lower your taxable income.  It makes sense. Why pay more tax than you have to? But there is a catch that many business owners do not think about until they are ready to buy a home. The same tax returns that help you save money can make it harder to qualify for a mortgage. I have seen this issue come up time and again with self-employed buyers. They run good businesses, have money in the bank and can easily afford the monthly mortgage payment. Yet, when a traditional lender reviews their tax returns, the income on paper may be too low to qualify. The good news is that there are options. The important thing is to understand them before you start shopping for a home. Not all mortgage lenders see income the same way. When most banks review a mortgage application, they want to see your personal tax returns, Notices of Assessment and other records. They usually focus on the income you report after business expenses, not the total amount your business brings in. For a self-employed person, that number can be misleading. Take a contractor who brings in $180,000 a year but claims business expenses that leave $65,000 in taxable income. The contractor may have plenty of cash to cover a mortgage payment, but the bank may qualify them using a much lower income figure. That does not mean the bank is wrong. It means the bank is working with the numbers it can prove. The key is knowing that traditional banks are not the only option. Some mortgage programs are designed specifically for people who own businesses and do not show their full earning power on a tax return. Option 1: Insured Stated-Income Mortgages One option worth exploring is an insured mortgage program for self-employed buyers. These programs may allow a lender to use a reasonable estimate of business income, supported by other records, instead of relying only on the income shown on personal tax returns. Despite the name, “stated income” does not mean you can pick a number out of thin air. The lender and mortgage insurer still need to see that your income makes sense for your type of business. They may look at how long you have been in business, your bank statements, business revenue, credit history and the size of your down payment. Some programs also allow certain business expenses to be added back when calculating qualifying income. The big advantage is that you may be able to get a mortgage through a traditional lender without paying the higher rates and fees that often come with alternative financing. There are limits, of course. Not every business or borrower will qualify, and the lender must follow the insurer's rules. You should also expect to provide paperwork to support your application. Still, this is often one of the first options I would investigate for a self-employed buyer who wants to keep borrowing costs down. Option 2: Alternative Lenders and Bank Statement Programs What happens when your tax returns do not work, and an insured program is not a fit? This is where alternative lenders can help. These lenders often look beyond your personal tax return and take a closer look at how money moves through your business. One approach is a bank statement program. The lender may review six to 12 months of business bank statements to see how much money comes in. It then estimates how much of that money is available to support your mortgage payment after business expenses. For example, imagine a business has $240,000 in deposits over a year. A lender might apply an expense allowance based on the type of business and use the remaining amount to estimate qualifying income. The actual calculation varies by lender, and not every dollar deposited counts as income. A lender will also want to understand where the money comes from. Transfers between accounts, borrowed funds and other deposits that do not come from business sales may not count. The advantage is simple: the lender can get a better picture of your business cash flow, even if your taxable income is low. The downside is the cost. Alternative mortgages often come with higher interest rates, lender fees and stricter rules about the down payment. Depending on the lender and your situation, you may also have fewer mortgage products to choose from. These mortgages can make sense when they help you buy a home you can comfortably afford. But they should be chosen with a plan, not simply because they are the easiest approval to get. The tax savings versus mortgage costs is where things get interesting. Most business owners want to reduce their tax bill. That is understandable, and there is nothing wrong with claiming legitimate business expenses. The problem comes when tax savings today create a bigger financing cost tomorrow. But here is something many self-employed buyers overlook: paying more income tax just to qualify for a traditional mortgage is not always the best financial move. Let's say you save several thousand dollars in income tax by claiming legitimate business expenses. A year or two later, you want to buy a home, but your reported income is too low to qualify with a regular bank. You may now need an alternative mortgage with a slightly higher rate and an upfront lender fee. At first, that might sound like a bad deal. But when you compare the actual costs, it may be the better option. Consider a $600,000 mortgage. If an alternative lender charges an interest rate just one percentage point higher than a traditional lender, the difference would be about $6,000 in interest over a year if the full balance stayed at $600,000. In practice, the difference will change as you make payments and your mortgage balance declines. Now compare that cost with the extra income tax you might pay by reporting a higher taxable income. Depending on your business expenses, tax bracket and province, the additional tax bill could be substantial. You could end up paying more in taxes than you would have spent on the higher mortgage rate and lender fees. Of course, you need to run the numbers carefully. Alternative mortgages can come with lender fees, legal costs and penalties if you refinance too soon. The rate difference may also change over time, and there is no guarantee that you will qualify for a traditional mortgage later. The point is that paying more tax is not automatically cheaper than paying a little more for your mortgage. In some cases, keeping your legitimate business deductions and using an alternative lender can leave you in a stronger financial position. The best approach is to compare both options before making a decision. Ask your accountant to estimate the extra tax you would pay if you reported more income. Then ask your mortgage broker to calculate the full cost of an alternative mortgage, including interest, fees and any expected refinancing costs. You may find that paying a modest premium for your mortgage is a better deal than giving up valuable tax deductions. The goal is not to avoid taxes at all costs, nor is it to qualify for a mortgage at any cost. It is to look at the whole picture and choose the option that leaves more money in your pocket over time. If buying a home is on your radar in the next one to three years, it is worth having a conversation with both your accountant and a mortgage broker before making major decisions about how you report your income. Ask your accountant to explain the tax savings from your current approach. Then ask a mortgage broker to estimate what you could qualify for under different lending options. You may discover that a traditional mortgage is still within reach. Some lenders can make reasonable adjustments for certain business expenses, and insured self-employed programs may offer more flexibility than you expect. If those options do not work, a bank statement mortgage may be a sensible short-term solution. In that case, ask what it would take to move to a lower-cost mortgage later. That could mean building a stronger income history, improving credit, paying down debt or waiting until your tax returns better support the mortgage you need. Most importantly, do not wait until you have found your dream home to start figuring this out. The bottom line is that being self-employed should not mean you have to pay more for a mortgage than necessary. But the way you manage your business finances can affect the choices available to you when it is time to buy a home. Saving tax is important. So is keeping your financing costs under control. The goal is not to pay the most tax or the least tax. It is to make informed decisions that work for your business today and your plans for tomorrow. A little planning can make a big difference. And when it comes to buying a home, knowing your options before you need them is one of the smartest moves a business owner can make. Important note: Mortgage programs, insurer rules, rates and fees change from time to time. This column is for general information, not personal tax or mortgage advice. Confirm current program requirements with your licensed mortgage professional and discuss tax decisions with your accountant.
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By Tracy Head • October 15, 2026
When you’re buying a home or renewing your mortgage, choosing a lender is one of the biggest financial decisions you’ll make. Many Canadians start with their bank because it’s familiar. They may have their chequing account, savings, and credit cards all in one place. It seems like the natural place to get a mortgage, too. After years of helping clients find the right mortgage, I’ve learned that the best choice isn’t always the biggest bank. That’s why I often work with monoline lenders to help my clients find a mortgage that fits their needs. What Is a Monoline Lender? A monoline lender is a company that focuses mainly on mortgages. Unlike traditional banks, monoline lenders don’t offer everyday banking services such as chequing accounts, credit cards, or car loans. Instead, they focus on one main job: providing home financing. Many monoline lenders work through mortgage brokers rather than dealing directly with customers. This means I can compare their mortgage options with those of banks and other lenders to help find a suitable fit for each client. You may not recognize the name of a monoline lender, but that doesn’t mean it’s a small or risky operation. Many are well-established companies that serve homeowners across Canada. One of the biggest reasons I work with monoline lenders is their focus on mortgages. Because mortgages are their main business, they often offer competitive interest rates and mortgage features that can be very attractive to borrowers. Even a small difference in your interest rate can make a difference over time. But I always remind my clients that the lowest rate isn’t the only thing that matters. The mortgage also needs to work with their budget, plans, and comfort level. Here are some of the advantages I see when working with monoline lenders: 1. Competitive interest rates Monoline lenders often offer very competitive rates, sometimes lower than those offered by the big banks. This can help reduce borrowing costs over the life of a mortgage. 2. Mortgage terms that put borrowers first Some monoline lenders offer flexible mortgage features, including helpful options for making extra payments or paying off a mortgage early. Their prepayment rules and penalties can also be more favourable than those of some bank mortgages. However, every lender and mortgage product is different, so I always look at the details before making a recommendation. 3. A focus on mortgage service Since monoline lenders specialize in mortgages, their processes and support teams are built around home financing. As a mortgage broker, I work with their lending teams to help move applications forward and deal with questions along the way. 4. More choice for my clients I believe my job is to look beyond the name on the building. By working with different types of lenders, I can compare more options instead of limiting my clients to what one bank offers. That extra choice can be especially helpful for first-time buyers, families renewing their mortgages, and homeowners who want to make the most of their money. Of course, no lender is perfect, and monoline lenders are no exception. One difference is that you generally won’t have a branch to visit for your mortgage. You may need to contact the lender by phone, online, or through your mortgage broker. For people who prefer face-to-face service at their local bank, this can take some getting used to. You also won’t be able to keep your everyday banking and mortgage with the same monoline company. Some people prefer having everything in one place, and that convenience has value. Another important point is that mortgage features can vary widely. Some monoline mortgages have excellent prepayment options, while others may have limits or conditions. Penalties for breaking a mortgage early can also vary, especially with fixed-rate mortgages. That’s why I encourage clients to read the terms carefully and ask questions before signing. A low rate is only a good deal if the mortgage suits your needs. How Do Monoline Lenders Compare With Traditional Banks? Traditional banks have plenty to offer. They provide familiar service, a wide range of financial products, and the convenience of managing several accounts under one roof. Some also offer discounts or benefits when you combine your mortgage with other products. Monoline lenders, on the other hand, focus on mortgages and may offer better rates or more suitable mortgage terms for certain borrowers. Neither option is automatically better. The right choice depends on your financial situation, your plans, and the mortgage details. This is where working with a mortgage broker can make a real difference. We can compare options from different lenders, explain the differences in plain language, and help you understand what you’re agreeing to. My Advice: Look Beyond the Name After years in the mortgage business, I believe that choosing a mortgage should be about more than finding the lowest rate or going with a familiar name. It should be about finding a mortgage that gives you good value, fits your budget, and offers the flexibility you may need in the future. That’s why I often recommend monoline lenders. They give me more options to consider and can provide excellent mortgage solutions for many Canadian homeowners. Most importantly, I want my clients to feel informed and comfortable with their decision. A mortgage is a major commitment, and you deserve to understand your choices before making it. Whether your mortgage is with a major bank, a credit union, or a monoline lender, the goal remains the same: to help you find the right fit for your life, not simply the first option put in front of you. The best mortgage isn’t always the one with the most familiar name. It’s the one that works best for you.