Mortgages and Tinder

Tracy Head • March 10, 2023
What do the two have to do with each other? This week I learned a new term – Tinder Swindler...


This comes from a Netflix movie about a fellow in Europe who duped numerous women out of money by borrowing funds with promises to repay them. This is a con that has been around forever in different forms but the increased prominence of online dating has really extended the hunting grounds for people that are looking for their next mark. In the olden days (like when I was young) this scam looked more like a wealthy older man being taken advantage of by a much younger woman. This was the stereotype in any case. This profile has now changed and the swindlers come in many different forms and of all ages. Although what follows is going to feel like I’m hammering one gender over the other, believe me the con comes from both genders. My hunch is that when men have fallen prey to these scams pride prevents them from disclosing.


Over the last few weeks years I have worked with three different women who have been conned out of thousands of dollars by men they met through online dating portals. In all three cases these are strong, independent women who work hard and have always taken care of business. All three own their own homes and have great jobs and clean credit. The game starts easily enough. They each met someone who seemed like a great partner. He was charming, caring, and seemed to have his act together. One case started with a request to borrow cash as the partner was in a bit of a jam. Then, in all three cases, for one reason or another the new partner couldn’t seem to hold down a job. In one case the partner was starting a new business and just needed some cash to get things off the ground. In one case the new partner used her computer to apply for additional credit and intercepted the mail before she knew she had new cards coming. It goes without saying that in all three cases the women are left holding the bag with no hope of recovering any of the money they are owed.


For two of these women we were able to refinance their homes to consolidate all of their debts, but for

the third she found herself in the horribly difficult position of having to sell her home. After three years

of hard work she was able to buy a home again but this was definitely a huge hit to her retirement plans.

Before you are tempted to judge these women for allowing themselves to be victimized, understand

that none of the three are stupid women. They were trusting to a fault, and never thought for a minute

that their partner was anything other than the front that they saw. This is intended as a cautionary tale. If you are early on in a relationship and your new partner is looking to borrow money or asking for you to apply for credit on their behalf, open your eyes.


Trust your gut. Question why they are in the situation they are in. Get the details. Don’t be afraid of difficult conversations to get to the truth. Life happens to us all, and sometimes things are as they seem. However, if you are in a relatively new relationship and your partner is looking for money … think long and hard. It’s a slippery slope. One woman said to me “In for a penny, in for a pound. I kept hoping things would turn around and if I held out he would pay me back. In fact it just cost me more money.”

If you find yourself in this situation, I urge you to make a move and get help sooner rather than later. There are often options you are not aware of so you need to make changes as soon as possible so your credit and financial situation are not compromised.


On a different note, if you own a home you should have received mail from the provincial government asking you to complete a declaration regarding the Speculation Tax. Make sure you take care of it before the March 31 2023 deadline or you may receive a tax bill of up to two per cent of the value of your home.

Tracy Head

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So Your Mortgage Is Approved

By Tracy Head • March 6, 2026
So Your Mortgage Is Approved… Now Don’t Break It By the time a buyer gets the call that their mortgage has been approved, the reaction is usually somewhere between relief and a sudden urge to celebrate like they’ve just won the Stanley Cup. After weeks of paperwork, bank statements, document requests, and answering questions about that mysterious $73 e-transfer from your cousin, you’ve made it to the home stretch. But here’s the thing many buyers don’t realize: a mortgage approval isn’t the finish line. It’s more like the last lap before the ribbon. And in this final stretch, there are a few things that can still trip you up if you’re not careful. As a mortgage broker who has watched this happen more times than I care to admit, allow me to offer a friendly list of things you absolutely should not do between mortgage approval and possession day. 1. Do Not Finance a New Car (Even If It Smells Amazing) You might think, “What better way to celebrate a new house than with a new truck in the driveway?” The lender disagrees. Taking on new debt before your mortgage funds can change your debt ratios, which were carefully calculated to get you approved in the first place. I once had a client proudly tell me about the brand-new SUV they bought the week before closing. Unfortunately, the lender was less impressed. Celebrate later. The house comes first. The new car can wait. 2. Do Not Quit Your Job to ‘Follow Your Passion’ I’m a big supporter of people chasing their dreams. But if your dream involves leaving your stable salaried position to start a kombucha brewing company three days before your mortgage funds… perhaps give that dream a couple more weeks. Lenders like stability. A sudden career change can send underwriting departments into mild panic mode. 3. Do Not Open New Credit Cards for Furniture, Appliances, or “Just in Case” It’s very tempting. You walk into a furniture store, see the perfect sectional, and suddenly there’s a cheerful salesperson offering “12 months no payments!” It sounds harmless, but that new credit line can affect your credit score and your debt calculations. Also, you may be shocked to learn this: the house will still accept furniture purchases after you own it. 4. Do Not Move Money Around Like You’re Running an Offshore Hedge Fund During the mortgage process, lenders carefully verify where your down payment and funds are coming from. If large, unexplained deposits suddenly start bouncing between accounts, it can raise questions. Questions lead to paperwork. Paperwork leads to stress. Stress leads to calling your mortgage broker at 9:45 p.m. Keep things simple and predictable until the deal is done. 5. Do Not Co-Sign a Loan for Someone Else You may be the generous type. A friend or family member might ask you to co-sign for a car or a line of credit. As noble as that is, lenders will treat that new obligation as your debt too. Even if your cousin promises they’ll “definitely make the payments.” Your lender prefers promises backed by math. 6. Do Not Miss Any Bill Payments Your credit report was likely pulled during the approval process, and lenders sometimes check again before funding the mortgage. A missed payment can ding your credit score at the worst possible moment. In other words, now is the time to be the most financially responsible version of yourself. The Bottom Line Once your mortgage is approved, the best strategy is surprisingly simple: keep everything exactly the same until your home officially closes. Same job. Same credit habits. Same bank accounts. Think of it like carrying a tray of drinks across a crowded room. You’re almost there—now is not the time to start dancing. The good news? Once the keys are in your hand and the deal is finalized, you’re free to celebrate however you like. Buy the couch. Paint the walls. Host the housewarming party.  Just maybe hold off on the kombucha startup for a week or two.

Reverse Mortgage follow up

By Tracy Head • February 23, 2026
Not long after my last column about reverse mortgages went live I received a thoughtfully written email from a reader challenging several of the points I made in my article.  He raised concerns about the cons around reverse mortgages and said he felt that I wasn’t diving into the potential negative impacts of reverse mortgage products. Most of the concerns boiled down to the erosion of equity in seniors’ most significant asset due to the compounding of interest over time. He felt that I didn’t show any calculations so people would not see the long-term cost of a reverse mortgage. When I work with my reverse mortgage clients I show them projections that include the interest cost. What people may not consider is the appreciation in value of homes over time. Reverse mortgage lenders don’t automatically go to the maximum allowable amount for every client (ie: “up to 55% of the value of the home”). Mortgage size is determined by the age of the client and the type and location of the home that they are in so as not to erode all of the equity in the home. Mortgages are done on a sliding scale so the younger they are the less equity clients have access to. The other piece to understand is that not every client pulls the entire amount they are approved for upfront. I encourage my clients to only pull what they require at the time and to have the rest available for if and when they need it. Initially I was not a huge fan of reverse mortgages for a lot of the reasons that he shared. However, I have many clients who are house rich with very limited income. People living on CPP and OAS can’t afford the basic necessities never mind any frills. Which leads to another reason I see the value in reverse mortgages. Many of the clients I work with have overextended themselves using credit cards or personal lines of credit and are in the position that they are making the minimum payment on their credit facilities by applying for more credit cards or loans, which leads to a spiral of increasing balances month over month with no way to repay these debts. Downsizing doesn’t always work because moving to a smaller home often means now they have a strata payment. Even if they downsize and have cash in the bank to cover living expenses, the end result is that they are still eroding that equity and now are not in the home they spent their lives in. I’ve seen reverse mortgages impact seniors in positive ways that you can’t even imagine. I’ve had clients supporting their middle-aged children while not having money to buy groceries. I’ve worked with clients who have needed to renovate their homes for accessibility issues due to health concerns as they age. I’ve seen clients leverage the equity in their homes to buy vacation homes. There are many types of clients who use reverse mortgages to achieve their financial goals. I do find that some of the loudest objections come from the families of clients. In these situations I first ask my clients if their families know the true extent of their financial distress. Next I ask if they would like to include trusted family members in the conversation so that we can address any concerns so that everyone is on the same page. Not all reverse mortgage clients are naïve. Many have already done their homework before they call.