Mortgages and Tinder

Tracy Head • March 10, 2023
What do the two have to do with each other? This week I learned a new term – Tinder Swindler...


This comes from a Netflix movie about a fellow in Europe who duped numerous women out of money by borrowing funds with promises to repay them. This is a con that has been around forever in different forms but the increased prominence of online dating has really extended the hunting grounds for people that are looking for their next mark. In the olden days (like when I was young) this scam looked more like a wealthy older man being taken advantage of by a much younger woman. This was the stereotype in any case. This profile has now changed and the swindlers come in many different forms and of all ages. Although what follows is going to feel like I’m hammering one gender over the other, believe me the con comes from both genders. My hunch is that when men have fallen prey to these scams pride prevents them from disclosing.


Over the last few weeks years I have worked with three different women who have been conned out of thousands of dollars by men they met through online dating portals. In all three cases these are strong, independent women who work hard and have always taken care of business. All three own their own homes and have great jobs and clean credit. The game starts easily enough. They each met someone who seemed like a great partner. He was charming, caring, and seemed to have his act together. One case started with a request to borrow cash as the partner was in a bit of a jam. Then, in all three cases, for one reason or another the new partner couldn’t seem to hold down a job. In one case the partner was starting a new business and just needed some cash to get things off the ground. In one case the new partner used her computer to apply for additional credit and intercepted the mail before she knew she had new cards coming. It goes without saying that in all three cases the women are left holding the bag with no hope of recovering any of the money they are owed.


For two of these women we were able to refinance their homes to consolidate all of their debts, but for

the third she found herself in the horribly difficult position of having to sell her home. After three years

of hard work she was able to buy a home again but this was definitely a huge hit to her retirement plans.

Before you are tempted to judge these women for allowing themselves to be victimized, understand

that none of the three are stupid women. They were trusting to a fault, and never thought for a minute

that their partner was anything other than the front that they saw. This is intended as a cautionary tale. If you are early on in a relationship and your new partner is looking to borrow money or asking for you to apply for credit on their behalf, open your eyes.


Trust your gut. Question why they are in the situation they are in. Get the details. Don’t be afraid of difficult conversations to get to the truth. Life happens to us all, and sometimes things are as they seem. However, if you are in a relatively new relationship and your partner is looking for money … think long and hard. It’s a slippery slope. One woman said to me “In for a penny, in for a pound. I kept hoping things would turn around and if I held out he would pay me back. In fact it just cost me more money.”

If you find yourself in this situation, I urge you to make a move and get help sooner rather than later. There are often options you are not aware of so you need to make changes as soon as possible so your credit and financial situation are not compromised.


On a different note, if you own a home you should have received mail from the provincial government asking you to complete a declaration regarding the Speculation Tax. Make sure you take care of it before the March 31 2023 deadline or you may receive a tax bill of up to two per cent of the value of your home.

Tracy Head

Mortgage Broker

GET STARTED
A smiling couple holding a small set of house keys over an open palm
By Tracy Head July 24, 2026
One of my favourite phone calls to make is telling a client, "Congratulations! Your mortgage has been approved." It's a huge milestone and one worth celebrating. But many buyers are surprised to learn that there are still several important steps between receiving that approval and standing in the doorway of their new home with keys in hand. The final few weeks before possession can be busy, emotional, and occasionally overwhelming. Having a plan makes the process much smoother. Stay in touch with your mortgage broker. Even after financing is approved, your broker is still working behind the scenes with your lender and your lawyer to make sure everything is ready for closing. If anything changes with your employment, income, debts, or banking before possession day, let your broker know immediately. It is always better to have a conversation early than to discover a problem at the last minute. Watch for communication from your lawyer or notary. Your lawyer will contact you to schedule your signing appointment, usually several days before your possession date. Don't wait until the last minute to book this appointment, especially during busy times of the year when legal offices are handling many transactions. Your lawyer will also provide a statement showing exactly how much money you need to bring to closing. This includes your down payment (if it hasn't already been paid), closing costs, legal fees, property tax adjustments, and other applicable expenses. Be sure to ask your lawyer what form of payment they require. Most will request a bank draft or certified funds, and you'll want to allow yourself enough time to obtain those from your financial institution. Get your down payment ready. One of the most common causes of unnecessary stress is scrambling to move funds at the last minute. If your down payment is coming from investments, an RRSP through the Home Buyers' Plan, another financial institution, or the sale of another property, make sure those funds are available well before your lawyer's deadline. Some investments require several business days to redeem, and transferring money between institutions can take longer than many people expect. Arrange your insurance. Your lender will require proof that the home is insured before they release your mortgage funds. Contact your insurance broker early so there is plenty of time to arrange coverage beginning on your possession date. Book the movers sooner rather than later. Professional movers often book weeks—or even months—in advance, particularly during the busy spring and summer moving season or at month-end. Whether you're hiring movers or borrowing your friend's pickup truck, having a moving plan in place early will save you a lot of stress. Transfer your utilities. Nothing takes the excitement out of moving day quite like discovering the electricity hasn't been connected. Arrange to transfer or activate services such as electricity, natural gas, water, internet, television, garbage collection, and any security monitoring before possession day. Some providers require advance notice, so don't leave these calls until the final week. Update your address. Changing your address is one of those jobs that's easy to forget until important mail starts arriving at your old home. Take time to update your address with: Canada Post Your employer Banks and credit card companies Insurance providers CRA Your driver's licence and vehicle registration (according to your province's requirements) Medical providers Subscription services Family and friends A simple checklist can prevent a surprising number of headaches later. Don't underestimate the emotions. Buying a home is one of the largest financial decisions most Canadians will ever make. Even when everything is going perfectly, it's completely normal to experience a wide range of emotions. Excitement. Anxiety. Second-guessing. Relief. Even a little panic. I've seen first-time buyers worry they've forgotten something important. I've seen families leaving homes where they raised children feel unexpectedly emotional. I've seen retirees excited about a fresh start while also grieving the chapter they're leaving behind. These feelings are all perfectly normal. A home purchase isn't just a financial transaction—it's a life transition. Give yourself permission to feel both excited and sentimental. Both can exist at the same time. The finish line is worth it. The days leading up to possession often feel like a whirlwind of paperwork, packing boxes, phone calls, and checklists. But before long, you'll be unlocking your front door, carrying in that first box, and beginning a brand-new chapter. As mortgage brokers, we're proud to help clients secure financing. But we're just as proud to help guide them through the entire journey—from the first conversation about affordability to the moment they finally receive the keys. After all, mortgage approval isn't the end of the process.  It's the beginning of your next adventure.
Woman arranging flowers on a kitchen island while a man hangs a framed picture on the wall.
By Tracy Head July 8, 2026
Don't wait until the last minute! Learn how consistent maintenance and small upgrades can ensure a quick and profitable home sale.